How to Hug

Written by Carolyn Cutillo, MHC-LP

As we reengage with friends and family at gatherings big and small, we must ask ourselves: did we forget how to hug? Did we ever truly know how?

New research conducted by Anna Dueren from the University of London gives us some answers on how to give the perfect hug. Participants in this study were blindfolded and allowed themselves to be hugged by strangers. Hugs that lasted for only 1 second provided the least positive feelings (pleasure, arousal, and sense of control), while hugs that lasted 5 to 10 seconds gave participants the bigger boost. Hugs that used tightly crisscrossed arms were the safest bet, as hugs where one person’s arms encircle the waist and the other’s encircle the neck were considered to be more suitable for romantic partners, or were more gender-dependent.

If being hugged for 10 seconds by someone, let alone a stranger, sounds like your worst nightmare, then hear this:

Hugging releases oxytocin, which reduces stress and boosts happiness (especially in women). Hugging enhances communication with others. Hugging reduces pain and anxiety. Hugging may even boost your heart health and support your immune system.

Frequent hugs are optimal for living a happy and healthy life. While it may be easier to receive the benefits of hugging if you’re in a romantic relationship, don’t be shy to touch and hug others (with consent!)—it just may increase your mental and physical health.

We are increasingly becoming a touch-deprived world in so many ways. So when you get the chance, go in for the long hug.

If you’re looking for more ways to reduce stress and strengthen your connections with others, reach out to Live Well Practice today to schedule a session.